Since launching my new Facebook group, The Manifestation Collective, for fellow woo-heads like me, it’s been amazing to help so many people on their first steps into discovering more about the Law of Attraction, energy and changing our mindset into a more positive, open one.
It has also, however, reminded me of all the things I did when I first started on my spiritual journey (how cliche does that sound?) that weren’t perhaps so aligned with this new way of life I was trying to understand.
Which is why today I thought I’d share the 7 manifestation mistakes I made when I first discovered the law of attraction; from a lack of patience to not giving enough back to the universe.
And if you haven’t already read my Manifestation for Beginners blog post, I suggest you head over there first, take those five points in and then see where I went wrong so you don’t waste precious goal achieving time with the universe.
Let’s start with the first mistake I made, which was…
I concentrated too much on the how
One of the biggest things to remember when it comes to manifestation is that the “how” is none of our business. We place our order with the universe but what happens after then is not in our control. Yes, we can take inspired action, we can look out for clues of what she’s sending our way, but don’t put so much emphasis on the “how”.
If you’re manifesting money, it’s not for you to worry about how it will turn up. You may get an unexpected tax rebate, you may – like I did recently – get a cheque from the Halifax bank for £88.93 for NOT having PPI (true story), you might even find money in the street. The “how” is not your concern. Just place your trust in the fact that it’s happening.
I didn’t take inspired action
One of the manifestation mistakes I made when I first started was that I didn’t understand what inspired action meant. It’s about understanding your goals, what you’ve asked the universe for, and taking the steps to meet her halfway that feel in total alignment.
So, for example, if I’m trying to manifest a new client, inspired action would be to take notice of brands that come into my eyeline, ones that feel in line with what I offer, and reaching out to introduce myself. The universe can then meet me halfway by opening an opportunity with a client she deems the best fit for what I’m searching for.
It’s not about pitching to all and sundry because you’re trying to manifest quickly. Those actions aren’t aligned with your overall picture.
When I first started, I often sat back and just waited for things to appear. Fail. Make sure you’re taking action towards your manifestation.
I underestimated the power negative people had on me
When I discovered manifestation, I worked really hard to shift my mindset to a more positive one. I’ve never been a massively pessimistic person, but I would let small things day to day bother me. I had to work hard on my use of negative language in my daily routine, as I’d been so accustomed to using words like “skint” and “crap day”.
However, one of the biggest changes I had to make was choosing who I let into my space, whether that be physical or online. I made a huge effort to unfollow people on social media who were constantly negative, moaning for the sake of moaning and just generally bringing down the vibe I was working hard to raise.
I muted a lot of people on Instagram and Twitter and spent less and less time with people in my life who I found to be draining. I understand we have tough periods in our lives, and I’ll always be there for friends who need me, but I made a conscious effort to protect my own mindset around those people who found the negative in every area of their lives.
I wasn’t thankful for the small things
I’ve always been conscious of how lucky I am in my life, but when I first started writing my gratitude list it would read something like;
“I am grateful for running water” “I am grateful for a roof over my head” or “I am grateful for waking up today”.
Which yes, are all amazing things to be grateful for. Absolutely. Some people would literally kill for those very three things. But what about the smaller things happening in day to day life? What about that person who lets you go in traffic when you’re in a rush? Or what about someone messaging you to say they loved your latest blog post?
By writing a gratitude list for 10 things I’m thankful for from that same day, it has enabled me to see just how amazing my life is, with the small things standing out just as much as the bigger parts of life.