At 36, it’s rare for me to grab hold of a cultural trend made popular by Gen Z and TikTok (my eyebrows were never on fleek and I don’t intend to change my side parting, thank you very much), but having recently discovered the idea of how to romanticize your life and “having main character energy”, I feel like this is something I could absolutely embrace.
So, what exactly is romanticizing your life?
It is a pretty simple concept but something – as a society wrapped up with technology and the busyness of the daily grind – we often forgo.
It is about noticing the beauty around you.
I told you it was simple.
There is an audio clip that is synonymous with this trend, and it goes a little something like this…
“You have to start romanticizing your life, you have to start thinking of yourself as the main character, ‘cause if you don’t, life will continue to pass you by, and all the little things that make it so beautiful will continue to go unnoticed, so take a second and look around.”
I never thought a TikTok trend could be so profound, but here we are.
Do you ever watch a movie where they sit on the roof and watch the sun rise, take a road trip or wander the streets and strike a conversation with someone really interesting, and wish that was your life?
Like nothing insanely life changing happened, but in some small way their life changed. And you sit, watching said film after another ground hog day and start to question whether you’re actually living or just existing.
This is where being the main character in your life comes into play.
It’s not about making huge changes to your life but about noticing the smaller moments of happiness. Of gratitude. Of excitement. Of contentment.
With that said, I wanted to share how to romanticize your life in 44 ways and become the main character in your own movie.
1. Wake up on a morning and before you look at your phone, take a moment to listen to the birds outside
2. Take time to drink your coffee on a morning instead of rushing it – taste it, smell it, savour it
3. Plan a picnic with friends
4. Buy yourself fresh flowers and display them properly – I’m not talking about just dumping them in a vase
5. Go to high ground and watch the sunrise one morning
6. Jump in the car with an epic soundtrack and drive with no destination in mind
7. Sit and people watch outside a café in the sun
8. Take your favourite book and go read in the park
9. Even better, if you finish your book, leave it on that park bench for someone else to find
10. Wear the nicest thing in your wardrobe, even if you’re just in the house
11. Dance in your kitchen to songs from your teenage years
12. Take more pictures in everyday life
13. Print out more pictures and create scrapbooks for each year
14. Meditate for at least five minutes
15. Plant seeds and nurture them while they grow
16. Walk bare foot on the grass and connect to the earth in the best possible way
17. Spend some time close to water and just listen
18. Open a recipe book at a random page and cook whatever you land on
19. Invite your friends around for a vision board and pizza party
20. Strike up a conversation with a stranger
21. Volunteer at a pet shelter and give some love back into the world
22. Take a different route to work and notice what is around you
23. And on that note, look up more often – the tops of buildings are often the most beautiful
24. Have a YES Day where you say yes to every invite, every question, and trust in where it could possibly lead
25. Take your journal and write down what your goals are for 2021, breaking each one day into tiny actionable steps to take to move towards each one
26. Tell someone you love them – now
27. If you’ve been wanting to do something, whatever it is, don’t wait any longer
28. Go out to a fancy restaurant and dine alone – my personal tip, take a book instead of looking at your phone all night
29. Have a detox bath with candles, salts, hair and face mask, and soothing sounds playing
30. Go to the train station and book a ticket to wherever the next train is leaving for
31. Create your own smoothie recipe from all of your favourite fruits
32. Have deep conversations with friends instead of surface level fluff – really get to know their dreams and desires
33. Send someone a gift you just know they’d love
34. And while you’re at it, get back into the habit of sending handwritten thank you notes
35. Take yourself to an afternoon cinema date – this is one of my favourite ways to date myself
36. Join a local walking club and chat to strangers while you discover where you live
37. Book tickets to gigs – whether that be the theatre, comedy nights or live bands
38. Spend a morning looking at all areas of your life and working out what you’d like to change to live a happier existence
39. Find a photobooth and make memories with your friends/soulmate
40. Celebrate the small wins instead of waiting for the big things to happen
41. Get crafty (painting, embroidery, polymer clay etc) with no pressure on the end result – enjoy the process
42. Why not try wild swimming
43. Lay down and just look at the beauty of the stars on a clear night
44. Take a chance on finding love – even if that means the possibility of rejection
So, there we have it – how to romanticize your life in 44 ways. I’d love to know if this is something you’re going to be more conscious off and whether there’s anything on this list you will try and incorporate into your life?